The service, due to take place at St Paul’s Cathedral two days before Mother’s Day, will be held in honor of 453 deceased soldiers and many thousands who were injured during the 13-year conflict.
The commemoration event, which will hold 2,000 people, was officially announced by Prime Minister David Cameron on Wednesday.
Some 906 tickets have been given out for the event, but only spouses of fallen service personnel have been invited – with an option of bringing a guest.
The remaining tickets have been allocated to international partners, supporting groups, civilians who served in Afghanistan, veterans and Armed Forces staff, according to the Ministry of Justice.
Prince of Wales to attend St Paul's commemoration service for Afghanistan. Friday 13 March. http://t.co/wxfNL64QtF http://ift.tt/1D5PBXO
— St Paul's Cathedral (@StPaulsLondon) January 28, 2015
Given their exclusion from the guest list, the grieving parents of many of the deceased are offended and disappointed.
Jacquie McDonald, from Edinburgh, lost her son Sean in 2010 after he stood on an improvised explosive device (IED). Although Sean, 26, had been married for over a year, his mother never had a close relationship with his wife. Jacquie, who has not received an invite, may not have the opportunity to pay her respects.
She said the state’s failure to invite parents to the memorial service was “insensitive.” The 53-year-old told the Daily Mail she thinks the parents of the soldiers have been “cast aside.”
“Nothing can prepare you for your child dying before you – and nothing can prepare you for being denied an invitation when there is an opportunity to remember them,” said Jacquie.
“My son made the ultimate sacrifice and I should be able to honor his memory,” she added.
Sean McDonald’s death occurred when he returned to a hostile area to assist a fellow soldier in 2010. The hidden device exploded, killing him instantly.
Following Wednesday’s announcement, Jacquie McDonald made contact with other bereaved parents who have also been overlooked by memorial service planners.
A group of parents are now collectively calling upon the Ministry of Justice to remember the fathers and mothers of deceased servicemen.
‘This is alienating parents’
Janette Binnie, from Fraserburgh, Aberdeenshire, said she feels as though parents have been “alienated.” Her son Sean, 22, died in Afghanistan’s Helmand Province in 2009 with three other Scots.
Janette told the Daily Mail she believes parents should be allowed to attend the memorial service.
“It's humiliating and degrading not being given the chance to pay tribute to your own son. I don't mean to sound selfish, but Sean was my only child.”
“I carried him for nine months, brought him up and nurtured him. This is alienating parents.”
Sergeant Binnie married his wife, Amanda, six months before his death.
As his legal next of kin, Amanda has been invited to attend the event in St Paul’s Cathedral. But his grieving parents, who don’t have a close relationship with their son’s widow, won’t be afforded the same opportunity.
Outraged by the situation, Janette Binnie wrote to Cameron highlighting her and her husband’s plight. She also called for parents to be added to the commemoration service guest list.
Her plea was backed by Caroline Whitaker, whose son Sergeant Gareth Thursby was gunned down by a rogue Afghan policeman in 2013.
Mothers of soldiers killed in Afghanistan condemn plans to allow only next of kin at memorial service http://t.co/K96wZ94sQT
— Mikkil (@MikkiL) February 2, 2015
Gareth Thursby, from North Yorkshire, had been married for seven years, but his mother’s relationship with his wife has ebbed.
“It's not an issue with the partners. It's the [Ministry of Defence] MoD’s lack of compassion for parents who have lost their children,” she told the Daily Mail.
“What annoys me more than anything else is that there will be 453 next of kin and one other, the rest will be dignitaries who never met our children.”
A spokesperson for the MoD said the service was being organized to honor the contribution of all those who served in Afghanistan.
“Unavoidably, limited capacity at St Paul's means we are unable to include everyone who would wish to attend but by reserving half of the congregation places we are ensuring that two people with close ties to anyone who lost their life in Afghanistan can attend.”
Fallen servicemen from #Plymouth to be commemorated in national service: http://t.co/TY9AQZLcR2 #Afghanistanhttp://ift.tt/1KjM600
— Plymouth Herald (@PlymouthHerald) February 2, 2015
When NATO’s war in Afghanistan came to a close last year, they left behind a legacy of unexploded ordinance that experts claim are killing civilians at a rate of more than one a day.
The UN-backed Mine Action Coordination Center of Afghanistan (Macca) recorded 369 casualties last year among civilian Afghanis resulting from such unexploded devices.
With fighting on the rise again in Afghanistan, the US has delayed plans to fully withdraw its troops from the region.
At the beginning of January 2015, a new US-led mission began providing training and support for Afghanistan's military.
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